As a woman who has recently turned 50, I have women friends of a similar age who come to me when they are in need of a sympathetic ear or in need of (wait for it) advice about sex. Why me, is a question I am constantly asking myself but they do and quite often. Most likely it is because I am trained in dealing with specific sexual problems but none of these are relevant to my friends so it must be because I am very direct and will discuss any sexually related topic openly.It still makes me wonder though because I am no Xaviera Hollander. LOL
What never ceases to amaze me is that without exception, each of these friends who have approached me to discuss their sexual concerns , have minimal knowledge of their own bodies AND have got to middle age and are sexually unfulfilled.How can this be? Are these women in the minority or are they representative of the majority and if the latter, there must an extraordinary number of women who have never orgasmed!
As a society we will discuss most topics openly , yet individuals are reticent to discuss sexual problems. Not locker room sexual banter but open and frank discussion, in much the same way as we discuss general health issues. The Scandinavian countries who are particularly well informed and educated about sexual matters, are not embarassed about sex at all.
I find it quite sad that so many individuals cannot experience the pleasure of sexual fulfillment.