If there is one thing that really irritates me, it is individuals lacking emotional intelligence. I have just got of the phone from speaking with someone with whom I have been friendly for many years, so I am well aware of her character flaws and have overlooked them as they were not malicious in nature, just thoughtless. That was until the week end, when she overstepped the mark and denigrated someone close to me. Whatever else I may be, I am fiercely loyal to those I care about and I was not going to sit back and allow her to get away with it.The trouble with people like her is that they will continue their behaviour if they are not challenged and as expected, once challenged , she back peddled frantically. Excuses and apologies just did not cut it with me and I calmly let her know that she was completely out of line and I would not tolerate her b/s. I also told her that she was the one with the problem and not the person she so nastily criticised.
I am very laid back in nature and tend to live and let live, without judging others but this person attacked someone she knew would not fight back. That’s bullying and it’s abhorrent.I have always taught my daughter and counselled clients, not to tolerate this from anyone, so I was certainly not going to let it pass because of our friendship. Of course she was surprised , as she had never seen this side of me but now she has. I hope she now takes a good look at herself because right now, she is a very ugly person, in my eyes.
Other than that, the weekend was very productive. Today, I hope to go to the nursery to pick up the plants for the hedge and come back and plant them before nightfall. 🙂